To the Editor:
Many of my female friends believe that there is no contesting the fact that "Men Suck."
I have personally not yet given up hope and believe that there must be some good men out there ... after all, all of our daddies had to come from somewhere! However, it is not difficult for me to understand the rationale for the general female consensus that men are no good.
It seems to me that every one of my female colleagues is a superheroine and someone that I would feel privileged to date if I were a man. They are involved in a multitude of different activities and do not use their affiliation with a Coed Fraternity-Sorority organization to explain away their lack of time for other endeavors. Most women that I have met on the Dartmouth campus are at once sorority girl, sports captain, champion of women's rights, intern, presidential scholar, green key member, golden key member, maintainer of 3.5 GPA and (most importantly) concerned friend and trusted confidante to many.
From my one-on-one conversations with my male friends I believe that men also have the ability to be superheros and compassionate friends. It seems to me that they just need to break away from the male group mentality that chains them and set their innate human goodness free. I cannot count the number of times that I have been in a deep conversation with a male friend in which he has expressed his disgust at certain mistreatment of women by men only to hear that he later "condoned" such behavior by his peers with his silence.
My point is that I honestly believe that there are good men out there who never "let their hair down" because they are afraid to appear too "feminine" or they are afraid of what "the boyz" might say. I'd just like to remind everyone that we all had aspects of the other sex in our personalities before we were socialized into the accepted roles for men and women. Men can cry just as women can be unemotional and ruthless (believe me I know). We are all essentially human and this is a call for all of us to analyze which of our actions are truly natural and which are forced on us by society. I think that, if we do this, men and women will find that they have much more in common than they originally thought ... and "the boyz" will become men, able to stand on their own two feet and care for their families.
